Valentine’s Day is such a famous event that a mother gives birth to a child later but teaches her about Valentine’s Day first. In Indian countries, the ratio of education is very low but, still, everyone knows that 14th February is Valentine’s Day. Unfortunately, people know nothing more than that. Let’s take a look at “Valentine’s Day”.
Today, we call our beloved one as “my Valentine”. Does Valentine mean beloved? Absolutely, it does not. Valentine (from the Latin, Valentinus) is a proper name in Christians (or Westerns). So, who was the Valentine? Was he Romeo? It couldn’t be Juliet. For your information, it was the name of 14 martyred Saints of ancient Rome. Saint Valentine was buried on 14th February, on the Via Flaminia north of the Rome.
Before going to the modern Valentine’s Day, let’s have a look on the day in the honour of St. Valentine. Valentine was a Christian. The day was first established by Pope Gelasius I in 496 AD. That means it was after the advent of Prophet Jesus son of Mary and before the advent of Prophet of Islam ﷺ. So, his Christianity does not tells us that whether he believed on our Prophet or not as Islam was not there until then. So, he could be a Muslim Christian or might not be. However, we’ve to see that whether our Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him and His progeny) celebrated this day as He celebrated Ashura (10th Muharram with 9th too) for the victory of Prophet Moses (peace be upon him) or not. We do not find a single year from His life when He celebrated 14th February or Saint Valentine’s Day. Should we have to celebrate then? Even if your answer is yes, it is not COMPULOSRY to celebrate it. How bad for a Muslims nation that it is celebrating something that is not compulsory, and about which he is not sure whether it is right nor wrong, and leaving the 5 times compulsory prayers.
وہ زمانے میں معزز تھے مسلماں ہو کر
اور تم خوار ہوئے تارکِ قرآں ہو کر
Now come to the modern Valentine’s Day. Wikipedia encyclopedia says “The day first became associated with romantic love in the circle of Geoffrey Chaucer in the High Middle Ages, when the tradition of courtly love flourished. By the 15th century, it had evolved into an occasion in which lovers expressed their love for each other by presenting flowers, offering confectionery, and sending greeting cards (known as “valentines”).
Modern Valentine’s Day symbols include the heart-shaped outline, doves, and the figure of the winged Cupid. Since the 19th century, handwritten valentines have given way to mass-produced greeting cards.”
There is nothing bad in what is stated above. Then, why Valentine’s Day is not good? Is it all what people do? We will not talk about West people or their religion because those things are allowed in their law as well as their modern religion. We, Muslims, do follow the same ancient religion which was revealed on Abraham, Moses, David, Jesus (peace of Allah be upon them) and our Blessed Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon Him and His progeny). In our pure religion (not the modern Islam which is being edited by every tom, dick and harry) dating and sexual intercourse, prior to marriage, is not allowed. Touching and talking with a non-Mehram without any valid reason is a sin. Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or not, is going out with someone’s daughter or someone’s sister a right thing? Just leave the religion and just think ethically and morally. If you do not want someone to hang out with your daughter or your sister, how do you want to hang out with someone other’s, just for the sake of temporary pleasure. Islam does not stop from selecting a partner of your choice but Islam says to marry your partner. If your partner is not willing to ask your hand from your parents, then, without any doubt, he is cheating you. And until or unless someone is not your legal and Islamic partner, how can you even touch him/her? It’s like stealing from your brother’s house but it has a greater sin.
Now, come to the last point, why is this situation common? The only answer is FRUSTRATION. Today’s youth is frustrated. But why is this frustration? It is very rare case that a child do something that he does not find in his surroundings. Today’s youth do what it see 24/7. When a child comes home, he watches Indian and English films which are full of lust on the name of love. Neither love is a lust nor is lust a love. Love is very spiritual and it is responsible and essential for a person to reach to his God. But today, love is seen nothing more than a lust.
Then, should a person leave all his/her sexual desires? The answer is very clear in the Hadith. Holy Prophet ﷺ said that if a boy thinks that he might be involved in some grave sin, he should REQUEST his parents TO MARRY HIM. If he CANNOT DO EVEN THAT, THEN HE SHOULD FAST as fast stops a person from sins. Here, the fast means fasting with whole spirit and meaning of FAST in which a person is not allowed to drink, eat or have a sexual intercourse. Moreover, talking bad (about someone or just for pleasure) and doing bad (in any way) breaks the fast.
Now, have a look on the method of celebrating. Wherever you’ll see anything of Valentine’s Day there’ll be a heart and, at most of the places, an arrow in that heart. Even if you go to Wikipedia encyclopedia, they’ve also used the picture of heart with an arrow and two children with it. It is, actually, Greek myth. In Greek myth, it is believed that until or unless such god (I think he is called the son of Venus) do not cast an arrow in the hearts, there could be no love. In ignorance, we are promoting the ideas of MUSHRIKEEN and still considering it as an allowed festival. If you really want to celebrate it, then why are you following prohibited things. Making that sign clearly state that such and such god has power for creating love among hearts although Allah states in the Holy Qur’an that it is He (Allah) that create affection and love between hearts.
Second thing, why should celebrate it on only 14th February and why should we call it Valentine’s Day or Saint Valentine’s Day? Do Jews, Christians, Hindus and Sikhs celebrate our festivals as enthusiastically as do we celebrate? The answer is no. Atatürk said that Arabic was not his language so why it should be used by Turks. So, if he was not wrong in this statement to reject Arabic language and even converting Azan (call of prayer) in Turkish language so why could I be wrong in stating that we should celebrate some other day with some other name for celebrating love.
Celebrating love is never prohibited in Islam. The only thing we object on is its root towards something non-Islamic. We appeal to the Government of Pakistan to please have some restrictions on public places on such days to minimize thing that has severe after effects on families and futures of innocent girls.
I hope that it’s enough for today. If you have any point unclear, please feel free to comment.